AskHeatherG
Relationships are such rollercoasters. Sometimes they are good, great, or even out of this world. But at other times, they are... well not so pretty. Look at Kim Kardashian and Reggie Bush (splitsville), or Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony (divorce... again), well.... you get the idea. Contributing factors like carelessness, 'not thinking,' or rushing into things are usually the culprits of these highs and lows, but what happens when you reach your boiling point? I suppose the answer to this question could go many ways, but what I want to know is, is there a formula... a formula that could weigh the limitations of a relationship with all things considered (the time you've known one another, the amount of hours invested, the degree of care, love and concern on both parties behalf, etc) Shhh... I wish.
3.16.2012
Before You Dump Him, Take a Look At The List!
We already know that's wishful thinking, but there is something else. Think back to Tyler Perry's movie, "Why Did I Get Married." In that movie, Janet Jackson coached her girlfriends about "the list." "The list"was simply a piece of paper, divided into two halves. One side consisted of the pros of the relationship while the other listed the cons. As simple as it sounds, it is effective. It is an elementary way of taking a glance at cause and effect. No love formula is truly fool proof, but if you are having doubts about your relationship, why not take a direct look at the issues in a controlled way, without being hasty. Instead, evaluate what's important. Maybe the cons on the list will not be as dire as you thought they were and perhaps the pros are so much more substantial than the cons. Wouldn't you feel silly if you threw a relationship away over dirty dishes?
The lesson here is, never react on emotion, but be constructive with those feelings... write them down, take a look, and make a decision. Sometimes that's the very thing that will hinder a good relationship from growing.
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