Men, Respect & Sex

Ladies, I am going to let you in on a little secret… some men are awful, just awful...

What the hell is wrong with them? LOL… I love/hate them to death, but I swear men are so confusing... or maybe they're just that simple??? So let me see how I can go deep without getting heavy. Let’s talk about 2 major topics, Respect and Sex!

Respect: Men, what does it take for you to give a woman respect? Ok, the obvious response is, “to get respect you have to give it,” but what else does it require? Speaking from a woman’s perspective, I know that we like to be pampered and catered to, but doing those things for us does not equate to respect necessarily. Do men understand this? Do men think that because they can buy us dinner and material possessions that they are showing respect? Overall, I have had good experiences with dating. I feel I have been treated with respect and that I still have my dignity at the end of the evening. On the rare occasion that I felt otherwise, that man knew it long before he had a chance to make it right. However, I just need to know what goes on in the mind of men who feel that a woman is not worthy of respect. Help me to understand this! I must say that not all men are disrespectful (obviously), just as, not all women are worthy of respect, but is it because of some women being less than ladies, the reason men dispose of deserving women so easily?

Sex: Most of us have heard of Steve Harvey's book entitled, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. The one thing that really stood out in my mind was the fact that Steve actually put a specific number on the minimum amount of days a woman should wait before sleeping with a man… that number was 90 (3 months). I am neutral on this specific issue. I see the thought behind the waiting period. Women, we should know a man before we jump into bed with him... period, but is the magic number 90 days? I totally agree with the idea of knowing what you’re getting yourself into. However, what about the women who spend endless amounts of time with a man in a short time span? Does she use the same rules as a woman who may only see a man once a week? And what about a woman who may have known a man for years from afar, but only a mere couple of days intimately, does she wait? Could there really be a formula that fits the masses, 90 days, no exceptions? And say we all begin to wait 90 days, then what? Will men really respect you more JUST because you waited? Should there be a specific number on the amount of days a woman waits before a she goes there with a man she finds to be significant?

My advice on respect is to accept nothing less than you are worthy of. My advice on sex is to get to know a man before you lay down with him. It seems simple enough, but is it? Think with your brain in order to save yourself humiliation and hurt feelings! It is really that simple!

Posted in: relationships, respect, sex, Steve Harvey