EX is better than your NEXT

Poor baby, you thought you were going to make a better move when you left Rich for Marcus, but little did you know… you were wrong! Dead wrong in fact, and it was all so evident when you began dating Marcus full time. All the things that you thought he was capable of doing, he does no more. All the things he promised are a distant memory and the only thing that remains the same is perhaps the sex, but we all know that is never enough to keep the relationship going. So what do you do now? You just realized, your ex… well… he is better than your next.

I’m sure we know about to 80/20 rule. If you don’t, let me give you a brief rundown. Basically, the “80” in this scenario is Rich and he was mostly a good catch, but for some reason she (probably you) could not see that and left Rich’s slight imperfections for the “20,” Marcus, thinking that he could do all the things Rich did, plus some. However, most of us are so caught up in the newness and bliss that we miss the most obvious signs of a man less worthy. Don’t allow this person to be you. Who wants to look back at their ex and realize that the man they are with now is so much less than the man they so hastily set aside. Good men and women are hard to find so if you have one that overall makes you happy, provides and takes care of you, hold on to him or her.

The only thing that I can say to those of you that are currently in this situation is to evaluate yourself. Are you whole on your own or are you looking to a man to fill in the gaps? If your new boo is much less than the last, is it worth your time to invest in him? Take a stand and make the best decisions for you. Only you can decide your happiness and who is permitted to share in it. While the previous man maybe gone with the wind, your future maybe waiting around the corner. Be your best you so you can meet your best him!

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