The Prince & the Pauper

Hey you… yea you! Are you still holding on to that 50 point checklist? I you know some of us have that ridiculous list that we use a guideline to determine what we want from a man: how he should look, what he should say, and the figure that should be on his W-2’s every year. But have you ever considered that you’re expecting too much? I will be the first one to say, set a high standard because women, WE ARE special, but have you ever asked yourself, “Am I being reasonable?”

Let’s analyze this.

Say it is a Thursday night. You get dolled up and head over to the lounge you frequent on most weekends. Tonight you spot a hottie at the bar and decide to give him a little eye action… yes, I said “eye action,” you know, cutting your eye flirtatiously while luring him in with your body language. He finally comes over and to your surprise, the evening goes extremely well. You’re feeling him at this point, but once you start dating him over the next couple weeks, you figure out that, while he is financially OK, it is not to the degree you pictured your man to be. So you have to make a decision as to whether you’re going to look at the glass half empty or half full.

Let us understand something though! Simply because you find a man with the financial backing, does not mean you have a full glass. Nearly everyone comes with some glitch, baggage, or BS, but it is up to you to decide what you are willing to accept; which leads me to ask, is it fair to dismiss potential?

I say, take a look at you! Have you ever thought that perhaps you aren’t to a man’s standard, his “checklist?” Sure you look good, smell sweet, and hang a dress like nobody’s business, but is that enough? What do you have to bring to the table? I will be the first to say that I think every man should be able to take care of his home. Financials are beyond important, and while I always want to have my own, I DO believe a man should have it covered should I need to be immobile due to let’s say…. maternity leave (I’m just saying). But… does that mean you offer nothing in return? Can you cook, do you clean, are you able to help your future children with their homework, can you pay a bill if need be, are you smart enough to stimulate his mind, do you make it easy for him to make a salary worthy of your approval? Now think about that before you pass on your next potential Prince! Remember, a Prince in training will someday be King!

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