Love is Blind, or is it?

They say that love is blind because so many of us have trusted our heart to unworthy madness, but is love truly blind or is an individual misfortune? In a world full of options, i.e. people from various ethnicities, cultures and backgrounds; how is it fair to make such a bold accusation? I would like to go on record as saying that I do not believe love is blind. In fact, I see love as being clear and concise. It is infatuation and lust that blurs our vision and is mistaken for love. Perhaps the very reason there are so many broken hearts. People do not take their time to get to know one another before professing that they have found “the one.” In the end, they realize that they do not know this person they loved last week, but was taken by physical attributes; looks, sexual appeal, or sex itself.

When you truly love someone you know their heart. When you love someone you know what they are most likely to say before they say it. When you love someone, you understand their hardships and work to pull through them. When that love is tampered with, most likely trust and respect have been broken, but that does not equate to love being lost or blind. I think the reason so many people have accepted the quote “Love is Blind,” is because they have seen people go through massive heartache and pain all in the name of” love,” but in my eyes, that is perhaps the very reason love is visible. That is not to say that you should be a fool forever, but in a situation where love is true, you work things out. Anyone is liable to make a mistake, but it is how you make it right that counts.

But I know I still have readers that may disagree with me. “What about the circumstances where a woman, for example, stands by while her man goes out and constantly cheats on her or maybe he beats her, but she stays, etc? Certainly she is blinded by love!” Uh, no, because that is not love, that is a combination of manipulation and low self- esteem! Love is not one-sided. Love is a two-way street; both people have to be on board. You cannot think you are in love with someone that does not respect you, period.

So I ask again, is love really blind or have we confused ourselves? You be the judge.

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