Can a Relationship Survive Distance?

They say that distance makes the heart grow fond, but how does a relationship survive distance? Being that I have survived a long distance relationship (well kind of), I feel qualified to answer this question and the answer is simple, trust. Fact of the matter is, you NEED trust. Without trust, any relationship is doomed, not to mention one that exceeds miles of open highway. I guess the better question is, do you want to endure the strains that distance can place on a budding relationship?

To be honest, this situation is hard. I cannot say that I would LIKE to do it again, but I suppose if the chemistry was beyond amazing and communication was on point, I might take the challenge. The thing is… you have to stand your ground. Wandering thoughts can be a *itch, but it is up to you to know what you have with that person and remain level headed. Trust me; it is easy for the mind to fabricate things when you feel lonely. Come on, you know what I mean; like, have you ever seen those chicks that swear their man is doing dirt so they hop in their car, drive 3 hours to their student housing building on campus, only to see that their boyfriend is in his room playing Madden with his roommate. Crazy! That’s not a healthy, trusting relationship; it is damn near insanity. On the other hand, you don’t want you to be naïve either. I’ve seen situations where someone is so “secure” that they live in denial while their mate is “coloring the town red,” or in other words, sleeping, creeping and dabbling in anything that interests them.

Just know if you are cut out for a relationship that involves time and distance apart. There is not a worse feeling than to be out of control and delusional, lonely and abandoned. These problems can be avoided. Just talk about it, be a grown up about things and if you cannot handle it, someone has to walk. You may feel heartbroken for the moment, but at least you haven’t invested time and energy into a relationship that you possibly would have single handedly ruined with insecurities. Be wise!

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