Is It Better To Know How Many Sex Partners He's Had

To know or not to know, that is the question! So I ask, do we (ladies) really want to know who our ‘John’ slept with 3 years ago? Perceptibly, you may want to know where your man has been and who he once loved, liked or took interest in, but how important is it to know who our partners once ‘shagged’?

I’ll be honest, at one point I wanted to know all about my partner’s past. It was more of an ego thing, I suppose. I didn’t want any woman to be able to look at me and say that she had my man without me already knowing it; I would be hip her side eyes and snide whispers to her unforgiving girlfriends . Ultimately, I’d somehow hold the upper hand and be in control of the situation. But would I really? I mean, after all, she already had him. Do I really win by merely knowing their history, or would I be better off not knowing anything? After running this image through my head over and over, I changed my views about this. If a woman is my man’s past, why does she matter to me… his future?

Sometimes, we as women take too much time investigating irrelevant women of our man’s past and when we find things, we get upset and question them. It is unnecessary! Maybe WE are causing our own insecurities. If the past is past, leave it there! Besides, is it likely that OUR slate is so squeaky clean that we can pass judgment on our beau? Why is it that we want to be in the know about all the things our man once did, but at the same time, we want to conceal our own dirty laundry? If you are going to open that can of worms, be sure that you can handle the cost of knowing…. or worse, the cost of sharing your own little secrets. Tisk Tisk.

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