You’re Out of Your “Beauty” League

You know how it is when you log onto Facebook and you have those bright red alerts at the top of your screen. Usually there is a bunch of junk in your inbox and notifications, but on this particular day I had something a bit more intriguing. It was a request for AskHeatherG, and boy what a request it was. The FB message was from a woman who is dating a guy who she feels is uber attractive, and while she is attractive as well, she went on to explain that she lacks “assets” that his previous partners had. The message gave me little background on her situation, but propositioned me to shed light on a topic that no one really talks about, but everyone notices. That topic: How do you handle dating someone out of your “physical beauty league?”

My immediate thought was, “that’s insecurity,” but I refuse to answer a question with little thought behind it and so I closed my eyes and gave consideration to the circumstances presented to me. After thinking about it, I realized that, yes; it is true that obviously some people are more esthetically out of our league. Take Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, for example, but I think the things that attract many people to one another are the other assets they bring to the table. Let’s be honest, while big boobs and a round tush looks good, it cannot compete with the stimulation a brilliant mind poses over the years, “mind sex!” Besides, there will come a time when we all fall short in the beauty department and then what? So I say that if you’re dating “up,” know that there is something that he/she feels is precious about you. There is a reason he isn’t dating store bought booties anymore. Now that surely isn’t to say that all women with breast augmentations, butt implants, and nose jobs are dummies, but in this case I believe our guy was looking for the wrong things until he found you and that is why you are on his arm, natural body and all!

My advice to my fellow Facebook friend; while I am sure that you may feel a little out of your league, I’d bet money that he feels that you’re out of his! It is up to you to show him.

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