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Last night I was cozied up on the couch, trying to combat the brisk cold air, when the front door swung open and in came a friend. While I tucked my bare legs under the fleece blanket, the door shut and the conversation began!
Me being me, I could not help but to jump into the mix and add my 2 cents. It was guys talk, but what is guys talk without a little female input?! The guys were discussing the proper protocol (if you will) of your love interest taking the time to meet your family for the first time, which lead into another discussion about learning to adapt to another's personality. The issue at hand was irrelevant at that point, at least to me, because I simply wanted to make this point; while certain things are right and wrong in a relationship, hence, my friend was right to want his girl to take the time out to meet his parents and family, but everyone is different in how they appraoch such a situation. In this case, my friend's girl is timid and perhaps needed someone to "hold her hand" a bit. Take it from someone who isn't so timid, but yet understands those who are... you have to be there for people in the way they need you to be there for them.
Do you follow?
I am simply saying that in life we all have our ideals of how we want to be treated, what we should do, say, or portray. However, it is wrong to impose those same ideals on someone else. Simply because you did it doesn't automatically mean that "so should I!" In relationships of any sort, we have to learn to love and care for people the way THEY need to be loved. That goes for father to son, uncle to niece or lover to lover. To truly love someone, you have to love them for who they are and not who you think they should be.
My advice to my friend, "hold her hand," or in other words, work with her!
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