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Boy meets girl. Girl likes boy. Boy pursues girl. Viola, boy and girl dates. But what happens when that scenario is twisted or altered? What happens when we throw another person into the mix? What happens when: Boy meets girl. Girl likes boy. Boy pursues girl, but boy has someone else? The immediate answer is usually, “Walk away,” but in life things are not always that simple, are they? Imagine that you met someone that you feel could potentially be that perfect fit for you, a soul mate. They are so right that it boggles your mind that another person could even remotely fit the bill more than you. You try to walk away, but the more you resist, the more you are drawn in. What do you do?
For so long I thought the right answer was simple, and in theory it is. However, nothing in life is absolute. Just last night, I was watching the movie, “He’s Not That Into You” and I realized that in real life... everyday life, people live by rules. They believe in what is said to be the “right way” and that’s the line they try to walk. However, the movie also tells you about the “exception.” Everyone wants to believe that they are the “exception,” but… you aren’t. Although… that does not mean that the “exception” does not exist and what if YOU were that exception to the rule?
Now let’s be honest, no one EVER wants to admit that they would be the Alicia Keys in a situation, but does love hold boundaries? While I find it hard to believe that there is only one person out there for me, I do believe that my soul mates are rare. At the end of the day we all expect the best, we want the best, and when we feel we have found the best, we pursue the best. So I am going to be very candid when I say that it would be hard as hell for me to walk away, but would I? I would. And it is simple.
Trust in knowing that just as you have come across one, you will come across another. If things are meant to be, They. Will. Be., but under different circumstances. Strength does not come easily, but peace of mind and respect is worth the struggle.
Ooooh , don’t you just want to be bad sometimes?! Life.
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Yes sometimes being bad does make you feel good, but it's temporal. Hey! I like your 2nd to last line, "Strength...but peace of mind and respect is worth the struggle." So true. I grew up believing that there was only one person in this world for me. And though that may be true in theory, in numbers, it's not.
Think about it...there are 300.1 million people living in just the United States alone, so it's hard for me to believe ONLY one is out there for me. Now as I said earlier, in theory...yes. Contrary to Weezy and Drake, I can not have every girl in the world. I couldn't even come close. And if a man made that his actual quest, he'd die trying.
The odds of you finding someone that "fits the bill"...depends on how tight this bill is. Surely the numbers are in your favor. But your scenario up top happens all the time. You think you've found "the one because they...". Because they laugh like i do, like the exact same things I like, or we have the same thing in common. I think that "because they" can either be a strong guide toward stability or make you go insane.
I will admit, nothing in life is perfect and anything worth having is worth working for but...peace of mind and respect is worth the struggle. Timing is everything, when it's right, it's right. And if you feel that you "think" that's right then it's not right. You'll know when it's right the same way you know your name. (There's no conflict when you're sure of something.)
Giving my 2cents.
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