Has Society Ruined Our Chances of Love?

Society has played a huge role in our lives since the moment we were born. I can remember watching the videos back in the 80’s and admiring the gorgeous women strutting their long legs and mini skirts across the screen; so much so that I decided to pursue modeling myself. But has media ruined our perception of love and the value of a relationship… the sanctity of marriage? We have power houses like P. Diddy promoting sex, lust, and Ciroc, but what would happen if Diddy put the bottle down and campaigned for healthy relationships and marriage before babies? Imagine that, “P. Diddy for Partnerships and Parenting!” I know it may sound lame, but let’s face it; Diddy could sell water to a well so surely people would listen. I know some of you are thinking, “He didn’t follow that protocol himself,” but has it occurred that we could learn from his mistakes? I know what it is though… Ciroc pays and reality does not! What a shame! But MY point is this: Just because Usher ‘Reinvented Sex’ and Justin Timberlake ‘Brought Sexy Back,” it does NOT mean that this is a true vision of how life works. We are so caught up on betraying what we see on television and looking for the “perfect man or woman” (based on that perception) that we may pass up the things that truly matter like loyalty and trust. We say we want a loyal and trusting partner, but when we set out to date, we gravitate towards the total opposite of what we feel we may need. Why is that? Think about it; would it be wise to date a Terrell Owens if you needed stability? Would it be smart to date a Lil Wayne if he is blatantly telling you he wants to “F*ck every girl in the World?” Uhh, the answer is obviously N-O!

Sometimes I wish we could go back to the old school. I wish that we had more wholesome families in the forefront like our First Family, The Obama’s. I wish more people took a chance on potential. I wish swag didn’t make the man and I certainly wish that finances didn’t take precedence, but reality is, in this day and time, these things matter! This is when reasoning comes into play because finances and status should not be the ONLY criteria. Know what you want. With maturity, comes experience and with that experience comes the things you want and need. Can your potential partner fill that position? If they can’t, can they learn to? Who is going to have your back if the chips fall down?

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