What's Your Body Count

So here is a touchy topic that most women despise talking about, in truthfulness anyway, but let’s talk about it. It sparked my interest to write about this when I saw the advertisement for the movie, “What’s Your Number,” starring Anna Faris. What is the obsession with numbers? Now fellas, I am certainly not condoning women to go out and sell themselves short for the sake of women empowerment or power to the “P.” I mean, let’s be honest ladies, we are not made like a man! However, I am saying that some of you need to stop with the “oh, I have only been with four people, you’ll be my fifth,” crap. It is LIES! Yes, it sounds good, but men are not believing that BS. They only go along with it because they are afraid to know the truth.

Here is where the confusion comes in though. Since most men do not believe the number, they seem to always double it, SO… I wonder if telling half the truth is a brilliant idea. Sure the truth is seemingly the best way to go, but if I say 8 and you double that to 16… well, we have a problem. So I see why women lie, but let’s start being truthful!

Is the truth so bad anyway? Look at it this way, if you enter into a relationship halfway through your sexual exploration, will you truly be content or will you always look over your shoulder regretting not playing around a little more before settling down? Just a thought. Sure this thought process does not ring true for every woman, but for those who have ventured a bit, would it be safe to say when you find love you will recognize it and hold onto it because of past trials and let downs? Let me state my disclaimer; I am not advising women to go out and sleep around, I am simply raising a question. If you are content with yourself (regardless the number) this article is meaningless to you. However, I want woman to not be ashamed of a little experience. I agree that there are CERTAINLY some hoes out here, but much like my “classy vs. slutty” post, a hoe, a slut, or any variation of the word, is mostly determined by the way you carry yourself, not your number.

So here is my message: You know whether you have gone too far, done too much, or are out of control… STOP IT! However, for those who are simply good women that may have had a couple more experiences; evaluate yourself, what you want, and where you are going. If you like it, I love it!

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Are You a Capable Sexual Partner

I had a request from one of my friends to write a piece about what a man should do to be considered a capable sex partner. Now, this can be very challenging, considering that we are all individuals and what one person may like, another may hate… but just like anything else… there are always some standards that should be met. Ladies, don’t let these men get away with anything less. That’s why some of them are walking around thinking they are handling business, but let me tell you, you aren’t unless you are at least, meeting this criteria:

1. Fourplay- Ok, so some women may think that they are beyond the foreplay; that they can in fact, be ready to go… just like that. However, whether you are mentally or physically stimulated, you need to pre-game before the show. Although physical stimulation is great, it does not take away from the mental. Men, remember that most women are in their head first, if you can make us feel comfortable, you can have us open and ready for business.

2. Attentiveness- So men, it doesn’t matter how “good” you are (well maybe a little, LOL), if you aren’t into us! You can easily break our connection with you if you are not attentive and that will ultimately make the whole act, worthless. The things you need to do are: look in our eyes, talk to us, and let us know that it all about us at that particular moment. We want to feel like no one else exists in your world (although some of you probably have multiple women on the side). But it doesn’t matter if you know how to make her feel… it’s like, “you are mine and me… yours!” Now what woman doesn’t want that, even if only for a minute?

3. Workability- Last, but certainly not least, is workability. I mean, come on guys! We know not every man is working with the gold wrapper, BUT you have to know how to do something with your package or at least your pre-game procedures (*ahem* you know what I mean, Mr. Go Down South). Us ladies, we will work with you if we like you, but you got to have the basics (listed in this article) for us to consider. All I am saying is, if you slack in one area, step it up in another! That seems simple enough, but can you handle it?

Good Luck Men… I should probably be wishing the ladies luck! Either way, have fun… MUAH!

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