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What does it mean to lose control? To me, it is losing the upper hand in a situation due to lack of planning, thinking and giving in to your body. So, where am I going with this? I'll tell you. Have you ever been in a situation where you found someone you liked... so much so that you could see them in your BIG picture? At first, everything is rolling down Easy Street... he is into you and you are into him. Picture this: dates on a Tuesdays, text messages for no reason at all, your pulsing heart beat just at the thought of him. Face it girl, you got it bad! BUT... somewhere along the line, you lost your leverage... what happened?
Never lose control ladies! I am referring to those of you who may have given into what your body tells you to do versus what you know is right... in Layman's terms, you slept with him. You ignored all the "nos" your brain sent you and now you're stuck. Problem is, you thought that sex would make you closer... that somehow, he would find you irresistible and want you around. How wrong you were! If you hadn't set a precedence from the beginning, you lost your footage because, in his mind, you have now been conquered. Besides, if you gave into him, what makes him think that you haven't given into other men too soon? Ugh, I hate to say it, but he is right. If the tables were turned, I'd probably feel the same way.
I have received some feedback on previous posts that suggested that I have not looked at the situation from both perspectives. Trust me, I ALWAYS do; and while I am not saying that there are never occasions that you sleep with a man and he continues to dig you, it does not happen often. Think about it... if you give in before he really knows you, why would he care? To some men, women come a dime a dozen, what made you different? NOTHING! I don't want this to sound harsh, I just want my ladies to be empowered, to understand a man before she hands her power over to someone not worthy of it.
My advice, be careful! Every situation is different, but make sure you know what you are getting yourself into before it is too late. Although some women claim to just want a fling, sex buddy, etc.; it is not likely that you will not feel some sort of attachment. Can you handle it if things do not go the way you expect it to go?
Never lose control ladies! I am referring to those of you who may have given into what your body tells you to do versus what you know is right... in Layman's terms, you slept with him. You ignored all the "nos" your brain sent you and now you're stuck. Problem is, you thought that sex would make you closer... that somehow, he would find you irresistible and want you around. How wrong you were! If you hadn't set a precedence from the beginning, you lost your footage because, in his mind, you have now been conquered. Besides, if you gave into him, what makes him think that you haven't given into other men too soon? Ugh, I hate to say it, but he is right. If the tables were turned, I'd probably feel the same way.
I have received some feedback on previous posts that suggested that I have not looked at the situation from both perspectives. Trust me, I ALWAYS do; and while I am not saying that there are never occasions that you sleep with a man and he continues to dig you, it does not happen often. Think about it... if you give in before he really knows you, why would he care? To some men, women come a dime a dozen, what made you different? NOTHING! I don't want this to sound harsh, I just want my ladies to be empowered, to understand a man before she hands her power over to someone not worthy of it.
My advice, be careful! Every situation is different, but make sure you know what you are getting yourself into before it is too late. Although some women claim to just want a fling, sex buddy, etc.; it is not likely that you will not feel some sort of attachment. Can you handle it if things do not go the way you expect it to go?
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great post and most men do lose interest after the sex...granted if the sex is good we will def keep them around in our contacts for a while...but harsh reality is that in most cases that is what it is...on the other side of things build the relationship as much as you want but who is to say once you take it there after 3-4 months or how ever long it is before you break that ice that he still wont do the same thing as if you waited a week...take it from me everyone is different but this is what i would call the "ugly truth" go check out that movie lol PLUG
I agree 100%. I recently had this same conversation with a male friend and he also admitted that most, damn near all, men think this way. At the end of the day, it comes down to self respect. Whether you're really digging the guy or not, women have to realize that what they have is a gift and you just don't give it out freely. Every thing worth having is worth working for...and when you've had to work hard for something, you appreciate it that much more in the end.
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