AskHeatherG
Why is it that we never really take the time to sit down and weigh our expectations of the criteria we expect in our mate? Here it is, this endless checklist… but without substantial logic to back it up. Does a checklist with no real meaning besides wants for an ideal really worth its time and effort? So what a man does not drive a Bentley Coupe and own real estate in Miami, California and Nevada; does this make him a catch? Of course I would never suggest you throw away your standards. Everyone should have standards that a man or woman must meet, but the details (i.e. the amount of money in the bank, the type of shoes he wears, the places he has traveled) should not stop you from seeing his potential. What is potential to you? And once you find potential, can you date him?
First, let’s first define potential. In my opinion, potential is a man that is working hard at his current level, but striving for the better things in life (obviously, everyone’s perception of better is different, but overall, living comfortably). He has goals, dreams and the know how to make it work for his future. Potential may not have money in the bank today, but if he is not lazy and possess drive, you know it will only be a matter of time. Potential may not be able to take you to Barney’s to buy those Louboutin’s or even take you to Maggiano’s for dinner, but if he owns all the traits a good man holds, is it too much for you to wait? Ladies are we above our First Lady, Michelle Obama, who waited on her prince? Perhaps, we could all learn a lesson from her. That lesson being, if you find a man that treats you well, puts you on a pedestal and understands life in general, you may have a keeper.
To be clear, not every man with little assets is potential. And I am not saying give every Tom, Dick and Harry a chance, because let’s face it; “dogs” come in all shapes, colors, status and size. However, if you so happen to meet someone that makes you feel good and show you how you should be treated, feel him out.
My advice would be to look at your past, your present and where you are headed. Have things worked out with the “ballers” you dated. If you have dated a man with little status, was he really potential? After you evaluate your personal situation, you will be better able to assess your ability to date a man based on potential. Who knows, you may just find your Barack Obama!
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